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How Trauma Affects Relationships Part II: How We Interact

I am realizing it’s impossible for me to write a SHORT blog. I’m sorry! There’s too much to say. It only looks long because I broke down the interactions. I almost made each attachment style a different blog but I had so many people asking me when this would be out I was afraid you’d

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How Trauma Affects Relationships Part I: Attachment

  “She overreacts about everything.” “He’s there, but not emotionally. I feel a distance.” “She always hears me wrong.” “We love each other but we can’t make it work.” “She flies off the handle all the time.” “He’s always waiting for bad things to happen. He’s always waiting for me to leave” “I know I

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Session Number Four

Hello again everyone! Summer is over- and that means more people coming into the clinic. Today’s topic will be familiar to those of you doing the work and for those who haven’t done the work yet, don’t let this scare you! When people come into my office I know that they are in pain. They

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Summertime Sadness…

Hello everyone! Apologies for the HUGE gap in between posts. Life occasionally distracts me. But, I’ve set a reminder and am back on track! Let’s talk about SUMMER! As you know, I’m very open and honest with you. Let’s talk about something that, from a business standpoint, is very frustrating in ALL of the healthcare

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What Therapists are Saying About 13 Reasons Why

  I’m feeling inspired. Consider this a bonus blog. Usually, I keep it to my “expertise” and I suppose in a way I still am, but I have something that I feel needs to be put out there. And so, without further ado, I shall step onto my soapbox. I’ve been watching 13 reasons why.

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Sexual Assault: Me Before, Me After

Let me just say this- I get overwhelmed with awareness campaigns. And they’re easy to ignore. There’s too many of them. This one is important. I’m not here to bore you with platitudes: “It gets better.” “(He/she) can’t hurt you anymore.” “You’re not alone.” They’re all true. But you’ve heard them. Over. And over. And

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Lizard Brain and the Importance of Mindfulness

    Hello again everyone! I’ve had an interesting experience this week that made me think of all of you…. What you don’t know is that your therapist is ALWAYS thinking of ways to make things better, to relate to you, or making associations like “oh! This could help my clients!” I digress, but I

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How Do I Find a Therapist?

This is a question I get from acquaintances often. It’s a very simple and very complicated question. First let’s talk basics: Before you look for a therapist you need to consider a few things: 1) Am I ready for therapy? Sometimes you don’t know. In that case, I’d recommend consulting with one. We can help

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The reason ALL of my patients come to therapy….

With a few notable exceptions- genetic schizophrenia, major personality disorders, and the like- I can narrow down the reason anyone comes to therapy to ONE reason: AVOIDANCE The root of most of the psychological stress that people carry around is due to not facing the things they need to face. I understand. It’s painful. You

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